Saturday, March 12, 2011

What I have learned

People grieve differently. Some turn exclusive (she loved me more) Some turn vicious (his things are mine). Some forever alienate people by not considering others feelings or considering their methods of grief. With my daughter's death, I was "discarded" by some of my family. (They knew her better, loved her better) Seriously? More than her mother? Okay. Whatever.

It's sad to see that friends are doing it to each other with another friends recent death. She was just a human, she was not perfect, she gossiped and did mean things behind backs, along with the kindness and love and joy she shared. But we tend to raise the dead to sainthood. I have reached a low tolerance for it at this point of my life. Let go and go on...

And I'm tired after a long day, so am saying more here than I would normally. I choose to focus on positive rather than negative and am tired of those who choose otherwise.

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.
Robert Frost 


Anonymous said...

*hugs* Helen. Death of a close person certainly does bring things out of people that one would not have expected. I hope your group works through their grief and can continue to support each other eventually.

Life certainly does go on!

(Word verification: shero. A female hero? ;) )

Julie said...

Oh my darling sister. Was in tears last night after finding a card from Jenn. I am so sorry that you are going through this turmoil with your "friends". And I am still sorry about our family's reactions. Breaks my heart.
Love you.

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...